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Relationships tend to be dominated by emotionality or mutual devotion. One leads to problems and the other success.
Examples of relationships characterized by emotion would include those where there is a great deal of conflict, an anger problem or a histrionic personality. These relationships tend to be controlled by emotion, and swing from one mood to another quite quickly, depending on changing circumstances and the emotions being expressed — emotions which tend to disfigure communication and cloud the relationship.
In contrast, a relationship whose partners have a high degree of devotion tends to be more level and consistent. Both partners put the relationship first and are committed to each other, and know how to weather the storms calmly. Their emotions do not overpower or tilt the relationship off balance.
And their communication style reflects their devoted love for each other — a secret of a great relationship.
Devoted partners give freely of their time, attention and the self.
When great, abiding devotion is present in a relationship, although the relationship may be imperfect, as they all are, problems and upheavals tend not to knock the relationship into crisis. Plus, devotion tends to create a rock-hard foundation that confers countless benefits.
Which kind of relationship do you have, an emotion-laden or devoted relationship?
Tips For Increasing Devotion
In some relationships one partner is deeply devoted but the other isn’t. These can be challenging relationships in which the devoted partner may feel a sense of constant frustration. Things improve only when the less devoted partner becomes more committed to the relationship.
In other relationships, there may be a low sense of devotion on the part of both spouses. In either case, the sense of devotion can be enhanced.
1. Increase intimacy and friendship. One way is to start having more fun together and enjoying each other’s company, rather than finding stimulation outside the relationship.
2. Design the relationship so it is more interesting and attractive to both parties. It may be time to do something different together.
3. Talk about the relationship and identify areas for growth and development. If an imbalance in devotion or commitment is an issue for one spouse, that spouse can bring it up for discussion and make the other aware of it. He or she should communicate his or her feelings in a caring way.
4. Set goals and make plans to enhance the relationship based on your relationship’s potential . . . begin thinking about what can be, rather than what is. Imagine. Envision!
5. Make more time for relaxing, recreating and beating stress together . . . make sure the relationship is not all work and no play. And avoid allowing your play to become work.
6. Both partners should responsible for the relationship, and each should work to improve the quality of the relationship. Devotion follows effort.
And remember this little maxim, “One partner should not carry most of the load . . . or there will be problems down the road.”
Resentment has an adverse impact upon devotion!
7. Renew your marriage vows to create an enlivened sense of devotion and rekindle passion.
Remember to get control of your emotions, too. An emotional relationship will be high maintenance.
If you work on improving your relationship by instilling greater devotion, your relationship will become stronger and more resilient . . . and, soon, your relationship will give you greater happiness and satisfaction!
Devotion is a reflection of the quality of the love that fuels the relationship. When your love grows, you will automatically find the level of devotion growing, too. Devotion is a beautiful quality that warms the heart, and fills the soul with gladness.
It feels so good to have someone devoted to us, and it feels even better to be devoted to someone, to feel the fires of steadfast devotion burning within us. Devotion will separate your priceless relationship from the pack of emotion-laden relationships . . .and give you countless hours of heart-felt satisfaction.
Richard Hamon is a dynamic coach and therapist with 30 years of professional experience. Richard helps people to solve their relationship problems, enjoy truly extraordinary marriages and find exceptional success in all areas of their lives.
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